Forceful or confident?

[volksdragon]

I just (mostly) jokingly promised someone that I wouldn't do anything to plan our yearly ski trip, and she seemed genuinely happy to hear that.

I feel that I have a lot of ski-place knowledge, more than some of the other trip members, and am doing a service by guiding them to suitable and fun locations for the entire group. We've had some "discussions" about that on previous trips.

Am I took forceful in trying to steer these trips somewhere that's more likely to be exciting/fun/etc, or am I just forcing people out of their comfort zones for the satisfaction of my own goals?


[Some of the people involved are on this journal. That's fine. I'm interested in seeing what you have to say as well. And I reserve the right, if we end up skiing somewhere SUCKY, to say I TOLD YOU SO. :)]

Comments

[enochs-fable.livejournal.com]

She's got a point!

I have no idea of the dynamics of your trip planning, but unfortunately if the average skill-level/desire-to-push-envelope of the group is lower than yours, majority rules. Heck, propose two places and take a vote of those coming.

On the other hand, if it's the sort of lamentable situation where if you don't plan it, no one will, there's nothing wrong with saying, "Well, I'm sending out an all-call to go ski at Orodruin because snowboarding on hot lava ROCKS!" If people really don't care for it, they can plan their own group trip.

And unfortunately, if the trip does end up being somewhere sub-optimal, you actually do have to let it go and not make with the "I told you" -- trusting that the suckage will be apparent to all, without the gloating. Nothing spoils a group trip faster than the one guy who's all, "I TOLD you we should have done WHAT I WANTED."

[siercia]

if the trip does end up being somewhere sub-optimal, you actually do have to let it go and not make with the "I told you" -- trusting that the suckage will be apparent to all, without the gloating. Nothing spoils a group trip faster than the one guy who's all, "I TOLD you we should have done WHAT I WANTED."

Amen. That's absolutely no fun at all.

[scirocco.livejournal.com]

Yeah, I know. I won't actually do that. I'm pretty good about not doing that. I think.