An art historian queues in...and hopes she doesn't sound condescending or pedantic. She prolly will, God knows men in particular accuse her of this on a regular basis...
Object association is one of the most common forms of memorization, and is often attached to emotional experiences. It's a very normal as well as vital process to be able to associate emotionally with an object, as most people are unable to process object memorization without it. The air of mystery you associated with that house sounds like a process you went through of self-discovery, and the house was symbolic of that. It's good to remember those things -- knowing where you come from is so vital to understanding where you're going.
It's been my experience and it is my opinion that men in particular need to have objects associated with emotional processes, because it's so rare that men feel comfortable expressing themselves in any sentimental or emotional way. Objects are one of the few "acceptable" ways for men to do that. I was always stunned at the things men remember about incidents and situations that I had simply allowed to pass, good and bad, and I realized that it in part had to do with some tangible thing that sparked their memories.
In a way, I envy it. It's a lovely form of psychometry that has a somewhat tragic aspect. Objects become conduits for men, and in many cases, it's the only thing they have permission to carry after something (or someone) is gone.
I think it's really admirable that you made that connection. I think it's really great you made a connection outside of that house, using the house as a springboard for finding the things within you that are important to understand and reconnect with. It serves everyone around you to have that sentiment, and I am happy you shared it.
Object Association
Object association is one of the most common forms of memorization, and is often attached to emotional experiences. It's a very normal as well as vital process to be able to associate emotionally with an object, as most people are unable to process object memorization without it. The air of mystery you associated with that house sounds like a process you went through of self-discovery, and the house was symbolic of that. It's good to remember those things -- knowing where you come from is so vital to understanding where you're going.
It's been my experience and it is my opinion that men in particular need to have objects associated with emotional processes, because it's so rare that men feel comfortable expressing themselves in any sentimental or emotional way. Objects are one of the few "acceptable" ways for men to do that. I was always stunned at the things men remember about incidents and situations that I had simply allowed to pass, good and bad, and I realized that it in part had to do with some tangible thing that sparked their memories.
In a way, I envy it. It's a lovely form of psychometry that has a somewhat tragic aspect. Objects become conduits for men, and in many cases, it's the only thing they have permission to carry after something (or someone) is gone.
I think it's really admirable that you made that connection. I think it's really great you made a connection outside of that house, using the house as a springboard for finding the things within you that are important to understand and reconnect with. It serves everyone around you to have that sentiment, and I am happy you shared it.
I wish more people would.